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Should I force my teenager to go to church?

A significant number of teens who grow up in church will go through phases in which they do not want to attend worship with you. This is a significant moment in your role as Trainer, as you seek to balance the importance of building such habits and not embittering him or her to church in the future. My recommendation is to make church attendance a mandatory part of life as a family. There are two important principles to remember in the process:

 

-       First, help them understand the why behind the attendance. It’s your sincere desire that your children become passionate followers of Jesus, but you can acknowledge to them that you cannot force them to believe what you do. You can enforce, however, the value you place on this part of life for your family. In other words, even if they are not excited about the Lord (or at least, worship in the context of your local church), they can still come in order to honor you and the core values of your household. By attending worship, you are addressing the Walls of Isolation and Misplaced Priorities in the life of your child. Of course, once you arrive there you are addressing every unhealthy mindset you can imagine!

 

-       Second, as your children grow into their teen years (or even as young adults who are living in your home), they may contend that they are too old to be “forced” to go. I would recommend in this case that you acknowledge that it would be counterproductive to do so, but share that if they are unwilling to attend worship with you in order to honor the household boundaries, they will be expected to use that time to contribute to your household in other ways – with extra chores, etc. It doesn’t matter how old your kids are; you have every right to set the expectations as long as they are living under your roof.

 

When you clearly explain the “why” of worship attendance – acknowledging that not every moment of every service will be for their entertainment, but that this is a value you hold dear that you wish to share with them – you pave the way to instill a lifestyle of worship in your child’s life.


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I worry about the problems that the future holds.
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It troubles me that God has not answered my prayers.
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I feel strong relationships are hard, but worth it.
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I feel with God's help, I can face any situation.
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I question why God allowed certain things to happen in my life.
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It humbles me to think I can know God.
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I believe truth is the same for everyone.
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When bad things happen, I feel like I am getting what I deserve.
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I tend to expect the worst to happen.
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I am so busy that I find myself ignoring the most important things in my life.
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I have too many of my own problems to deal with the problems of others.
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I look forward to good things in my future.
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I believe God wants what is best for me.
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I am willing to sacrifice immediate gratification for something better down the road.
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My faith practices are more about routine than relationship.
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People would describe me as a giving person.
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When bad things happen, I wonder if God can make things better.
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I know a lot of people, but don't feel very close to many people.
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I spend too much of my energy pursuing material things.
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When I am facing a difficult situation, I feel like I can solve problems on my own.
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The possibility of gaining a good friend is worth the risk.
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I am grateful for the things I have been given.
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I believe God loves me in spite of who I am.
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When looking back on my life, I tend to focus on all of the things I did wrong.
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I observe things that make me wonder if I should believe the Bible.
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I believe God is loving and kind.
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I believe the Bible has answers for today's circumstances.
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I find myself drawn to things I know are bad for me.
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I am amazed at God's power.
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I have witnessed things that make me wonder if God is in control.
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I am intentionally seeking to grow in my relationships with others.
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I find myself more focused on the things I don't have but wish I did.
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I feel compelled to make the world around me better.
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I have a hard time trusting people.
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I am confident God has forgiven me for my past.
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I worry that God is angry with me.
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I feel I can turn to God for direction.
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I think that God will meet all my needs.
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I think God cares about the details of my life.
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People who have hurt me in the past cause me to avoid some relationships today.
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I don't believe anyone can ever know what is absolutely true.
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I believe in an all-powerful, all-knowing God.
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I have to guard against judging people when I learn they are dealing with tough circumstances.
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I have been wronged in the past in a way I cannot get over.
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I am willing to serve others for nothing in return.
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